Hello, beautiful! Today is World Adoption Day and I thought I would take the opportunity to share a little about what adoption has meant to my family. There is so much to share that I’m not sure where to begin or what to focus on. The one thing I’ve heard people say that holds them back from adopting a child the most is that they don’t think they could bond with a child that is not biologically theirs… and they fear the child wouldn’t bond with them. So, I thought I would share a bit with you about the bond I have with my daughters.
Sure, I was a little nervous about holding my babies for the first time and whether or not they would accept me as mommy, but that all melted away the moment I laid eyes on them- before I even got to hold them. My heart leaped and did back flips as I embraced them for the first time. That feeling was so powerful, I am transported back to that exact moment every time it comes to mind. Dare I say that the feeling is more intense than the first time you fall in love?! That very feeling, however is the spark that ignites the bonding of mother and child- the bond that makes you a forever family. Through laughters and tears, that bond has never wavered- it’s only grown stronger.
And, what about my daughters’ bond for me? Whether it’s Kaiay’s hugs or Mila’s cuddles, my cherry blossoms tell me every day, in many ways that I have always meant to be their mommy. In her innocence, Mila often tells me “Mommy, I love you so much. You are my only mommy and you will always be my best mommy.” She has been telling me this since before she was old enough to understand what adoption means (even though we’ve always been open to them about it). They have always been incredibly attached to me and the bond only seems to grow stronger.
The bond I have with my daughters isn’t something I think about everyday- it’s something that takes me by surprise at special moments. Quite often, we all but forget that our daughters are adopted. We feel like any other family with all the same joys, tears, accomplishments, and struggles. It’s in those moments that take me by surprise, however, that my heart flutters and I feel most complete.
If you have any questions or comments about our adoption experience, please let me know in the comments below. If you would like to read more about bonding with our cherry blossoms, please click here and here.