Hello beautiful! In my last adoption post I shared with you our final fertility treatment options and our decision to adopt from Japan. Once we made the decision, we didn’t waist anytime making our dream of having a family become reality.
Where do we begin? That’s the big question we had. Luckily, my sister who had gone through all of this with the adoption of her daughter was able to guide us in the right direction. The first big hurtle in adoption is becoming paper ready. Paper ready involves mountains of paperwork, numerous fees and costs, background checks (local, state, and national), home studies, medical checks for the adopting parents, reviews of your financials, proof of health and life insurance, and lots of patience and faith. The requirements vary depending on several factors including the country you are adopting from, your adoption agency, and the state you live in. Our adoption agency was incredibly helpful and sent us what they needed from us right away. My sister recommended finding a social worker who would do expedited home studies- although more costs are involved, it’s more than worth it. Along the way, many friends and family would ask why so much was involved with adoption and why it costs so much. I, however, do not believe any of it is too much. Becoming the parent of someone else’s biological child is the biggest responsibility I will ever take on. International adoptions also require legal documents between two countries, as well as the translation of these documents into the two languages, and working within the framework of treaties. Most importantly, there are many people on all sides who work tirelessly and passionately to bring families together who need to be compensated. The amount of time it takes to bring children home who are living in orphanages is alarming and distressing. Fortunately, this was not an issue for our adoption program, although my sister waited 19 months for her daughter to finally come home after first meeting her. If you would like to learn more about why it can take up to 5 years for a child to be united with his or her forever family, please check this out.
Although we had some bumps in the road and a few setbacks, we became paper ready in record time. Now it was time to wait, and wait, and wait. In the few months it took to become paper ready, the program slowed down and many more hopeful families had signed up. Our adoption agency was unable to tell us how long we had to wait and they were only able to give us an estimate on how many families were waiting ahead of us. So now we had to play the waiting game.
If you have any questions about our adoption journey, I’d be happy to answer them. I’d also love to hear about your adoption journey- please share. Have a lovely day.